how to get over a breakup when you still love them

It can be difficult to end a relationship, particularly if you still have a lot of feelings for the other person. It is not always the case that a romantic relationship is over, and while you are still in love, moving on could seem unachievable. The contradiction of knowing it is finished and yet longing for the past is agonizing. Even when your heart is still mired in the past, we will look at helpful and useful strategies in this blog to assist you in healing and moving forward. We are here to support you on this difficult path toward emotional healing and self-discovery, whether you are looking for comfort, practical advice, or simply a little understanding.

Taking such steps could help you heal and regain your happiness if you're finding it difficult to move on while still loving your ex.

1. Accept the Breakup's Reality

The first step—accepting that the relationship is over—is always the most difficult. Accepting the situation is necessary for healing, but it's normal to want to cling to optimism, particularly if you still feel strongly about your ex. Although you must accept that circumstances have changed and that it's time to concentrate on your own future, you don't have to forget your love for them.

2. Give yourself permission to cry

Breakups are emotional losses, and you should allow yourself to cry out just like you would with any other loss. Take your time with the recovery process. Give yourself permission to feel depressed, irate, or frustrated. If you have to, cry. Instead of holding your feelings inside, let them out. Over time, crying will help you let go of the suffering and is an essential part of the journey. 

3. Cut off contact 

Establishing distance is one of the hardest things to accomplish after a breakup, particularly if you're still in love. However, maintaining a tight relationship with your ex can keep you emotionally stuck. It's acceptable to stand back and restrict or stop communicating, at least temporarily. This also entails eliminating any reminders of them from your life, such as unfollowing them on social media or hiding sentimental items like pictures or presents.

4. Put Personal Healing and Self-Care First

In a relationship, we frequently put our partner's needs ahead of our own, occasionally resulting in neglecting ourselves. It's time to put YOU first. Take care of both your mental and physical health by doing things that bring you joy. Exercise, journaling, meditation, or hanging out with close friends are a few examples of this. One of the most effective ways to remind yourself that you deserve love and happiness, even if it no longer comes from your ex, is to take care of yourself.

5. Find Your True Self Again

It's easy to lose track of your unique individuality when you've put so much of yourself into a relationship. Make use of this time to get back in touch with yourself. Investigate interests and passions you may have ignored. Participate in activities that make you happy and give you a feeling of empowerment. Gaining your sense of self-worth and moving on depend heavily on rediscovering your freedom.

6. Avoid overly romanticizing the relationship.

It's easy to have a romanticized view of a relationship while you still love that person. You may mentally relive all the happy times and lose sight of the reasons the relationship ended. Make an effort to keep a balanced viewpoint. Remember the difficulties or incompatibilities that caused the breakup. This will help you to touch grass and help you resist the impulse to romanticize the past.

7. Talk about Your Emotions

Speaking about how you are struggling is one of the most therapeutic things you can do. Speak with trustworthy family members or friends who can provide support and sympathetic advice. Sometimes all it takes to ease the weight on your heart is to express your emotions out loud. Consider journaling as a private means of processing your feelings and thoughts if you're having trouble opening up to loved ones.

8. Create New Goals for Yourself

You may feel confused after a breakup, particularly if your future plans include your ex. It's time to get back to what you want to accomplish. Setting new objectives offers you something to look forward to, whether it's traveling, getting a new skill, changing careers, or just putting your health first. It also helps you in turning your attention from the breakup to your own development and future goals.

9. Have patience with yourself—it takes time to heal.

There will be days when you feel like you've collapsed because healing isn't a straight line. It's alright. Have patience with yourself. It's common to experience a range of emotions while experiencing loss. Don't rush the healing process; instead, give yourself time to recover at your own speed. The emotional fog will eventually clear up and you'll begin to feel like yourself once more.

10. If You Need Help, Get Professional Help

Therapy can be a very helpful tool if you're having trouble moving on or if the emotional pain feels too much to bear. Consulting with a specialist can assist you in processing your emotions and provide coping mechanisms. Asking for help is never a sign of weakness, and occasionally an outside viewpoint can significantly impact your recovery process.

Although it is extremely terrible to break up with someone you still love, keep in mind that you can go on and heal. Your emotions are going to decrease in intensity, and you'll discover new ways of improving satisfaction and joy in your life. Healing is about loving yourself enough to let go and create space for new possibilities, not about stopping your love for them right away. Beyond the heartbreak, you can find happiness and peace with support, self-care, and patience.

XO LILY